In Reply to: Re: Yes, very sad posted by susie on December 10, 2003 at 23:18:36:
I totally agree and see that in my own children. My daughter has really suffered because of her father and she has had no closure because of his continual flippant attitude in her face. I told her to just write it down and put it all on paper, one day we will give it to him, whether he likes it or not. I've tried to take him to court for child support, but he hides in another country and there is nothing I can do, even when he comes here and flaunts his money making charity ventures in the face of his children that he neglected and ignored for the sake of a cult. Sometimes I could just scream. No one likes him, but he is their father and that is hard to reconcile for them. So, all that to say that closure is important and necessary.
You should not feel guilty, Susan. How could you have known? You knew you didn't like him, but you didn't know why. You must get rid of those guilty feelings brainwashed into you by F. and Berg doctrine. Please read the book by Rabbi Kushner - find it somehow as it is out of print I believe. I could even mail it to you with an envelope to mail it back when you are done. Even if you don't believe in God, or rather religion, because it has hurt you, this will lift the bondage that those evil doctrines have placed on you, I'm not kidding. It will give you a whole different perspective on God - one that will make sense, at least it will get rid of the guilt doctrines and put them where they belong, in the pits of hell, and that is liberating. There is no God like that, or if there was, he would be no God to me. It is very liberating to be able to chuck those doctrines and thought patterns because they are evil and damaging. All the best to you and your children Susan.