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In Reply to: Here it is posted by PD reposted on March 29, 2004 at 09:51:50:
from Kristi
Saturday, April 20, 2002 - 01:47
Hi my name is Kristi and that was my story. Here is the thing, I have been out of the family for about 10 years, I was born and raised in the Family and left when I got the shock of a life time and realized that what had been going on all these years wasn't "loving" but rather a violation. I was so shocked that I ran away from the home I was in. Not because I had been tortured and molested all my life but because I never knew they weren't supposed to be doing that. I went to different leaders on several occasions when I was still in the family, and specifically I went to the leaders after I found Jay with his hand up my little sister on the toilet, I went to leadership in Thailand, I went to leadership in Los Angeles, I went to leadership in the Montery Teen Combo, do you think it mattered. It wasn't the leadership that was abusing me it was the leadership who let it go on, and slaped my perpitrators wrist, if that, at times they did nothing at all except send me at the age of 8, 11, and 13 to confront my perpitrator. They wouldn't even go with me, I faced them alone only to be intimidated and humiliated by them once more.
The other thing I want to say is that I am no longer in the anger stage, and I know very well what you are talking about because I have definitly been there, no now I am in the I can't sit back and watch this happen because it makes me just as guilty stage. My brother who was 16 yrs old just committed suicide after the family had there fun with his life. I have 4 other brothers and sisters that are still in and I can't stand by and watch it happen to them.
I understand you have parents that you love and I am thank full that they didn't turn their back on you, but there are so many that are there and that have been devistated or will be devistated when they realize that they have been giving their dedication and loyalty to a pervert who used them to further his own cause and now two sick fucks have taken his place. I believe a court case would do one very positive thing for both us and those still in the process of leaving, it would validate and it would put the responsibility on the Family instead of on the victims shoulders. So many of us have had guilty consciouses about pointing the finger at these child molesters but here's the real deal, they wanted us to think it was ok that they did these things and then when they got caught they tore some pages out of a book and said "we've changed" Do you really think that after 20 years of indoctrination all it takes is saying ok don't read that any more and lets take those pages out. That is not taking responsibility, and I will tell you what I told the leadership that came to that court case, when some one is violated (especially a child) and you do nothing about it, that makes the victim beleive it wasn't wrong, and essentially that is what you are saying, if you don't say this is wrong and bad then what you are saying is that it is good. And with something like this that has the power to devistate lives by just saying it is wrong is not enough, the evil doers must be punished. Not out of some sort of revenge motive, but rather to validate that what they have done is wrong both for the victim and the offender.
By the way this court case happen 5 years ago and the charter was out and the Family had already "changed" or so they said, but they were still more than willing to harbor a child molester, and still are, because last I heard they just prayed over Jay and life went on and as far as I know they didn't ask him to leave or send him to jail or excommunicate him or anything, any punishment he got was having to settle the on the terms of our agrement, and give me a break, that was just me that was all I was capable of giving him as far as energy I couldn't waste any more time with Jay, but the Family told me things were so different now things like this don't go on and if they do then the family takes action, there was no action taken by the family against Jay and I know for a fact that my siblings were not and are not the only ones who were hurt by his sickness. And Jay wasn't the only one that came up in that court case either, he was just the only one on U.S. soil.
I guess what I am trying to say is that putting together a class action suite against the family would be for many more reasons than just revenge for those that have already left, it would be more for those that are still there and need protection. Because the Family hasn't changed they are still as sick as they ever were, and there sickness lies not just in encouraging these acts of violence against children but also not protecting the children and then fighting the children or SG's when they realize they have been wronged and lied to. Because lets face it most of us have given up and gotten past the abuse, it is the lies that still haunt us and confuse us. I have three sisters that have left and one brother who died trying. It was the confusion and guilt that they had planted that finally ate away what was left of him, and I can't stand by and watch it happen again.
I am not starting a class action suite because I have neither the financial means nor the stability to do so right now, however I am doing my best to get enough money together and my life stabilized enough to get the rest of my siblings out of there the best way I know how. I would never try to make them leave if they didn't want to but the communications that I have recieved from them have been those of calling for help. So I will do my best, and my suggestion to you who are thinking of starting a class action suite against the Family is that you sue not so much for your selves but rather for those that will be stumbling out lost and confused, set up a fund for education and therapy for those that will come after us. That is my hope, that we can give the second and third generation of children a fighting chance, even though some of us are still quite young ourselves.
