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Re: good questions

Posted by anovagrrl on May 12, 2004 at 06:33:46

In Reply to: Re: good questions posted by An SG on May 11, 2004 at 21:18:59:

If I had remained in TF my entire adult life, I would have a hard time letting my dreams and convictions go. At the same time, if I had matured into my aging, I'd know there were some things that need to change if the dream is going to pass to the second generation. There IS a point when older folk have to let go and let the young ones live their dreams. IMO, the SGAs who remain in TF and those who have left have been very articulate about what they'd like to see change.

The old folks either aren't listening or they're too scared to let go. Although TF leadership make a lot of noise about letting go and letting God, blah, blah, blah...it's really "do more of the same thing we've always done..." i.e., behave in a unquestioning, reckless fashion without regard for the past, present or future of the young ones.

To really let go and trust your higher power, imo, you have to be OK with not knowing exactly what the future will bring. The key is trusting that you'll be OK whatever the outcome, because you're connected to your higher power every step of the way. In my own experience, that's dying to self and letting go of my need to control.

TF leadership keep promising a future that never arrives. IMO, it's because they have no clue what it means to let go and let God. Getting a prophetic vision about what's going to happen in the future isn't letting go...they're still grasping and clinging to their need to know, and therefore their need to control events and people.

One of the doctrines TF needs to deep-six is the belief they can forsee the future. None of their predictions haven't gotten it right yet. But that demonstrates the incredible power of the ego defense mechanisms called denial and rationalization. Rather than say, Gee, maybe we don't have the ability to foresee the future, because we never get it right, the leadership and followers say, Oh, it really did happen, but not exactly the way we expected, or, it was contingent upon such-and-such and that changed everything.