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Re: How long were you in the family Mr. Don?

Posted by Charlie on August 09, 2004 at 14:47:38

In Reply to: Re: How long were you in the family Mr. Don? posted by Mr. Don on August 09, 2004 at 01:04:25:

I am sorry to hear that you are suffering health issues from your drug related past. I, fortunately, am not. I did suffer pshyco somatic problems during the ten years of my trying to come to terms with coming out of the Fam though. I turned the anger inward and out came severe back troubles, chest pains, gastro intestinal problems, waking up at night, etc.. I didn't know it at the time, but I had to denounse the Fam, and once that work was done emotional and spiritual resolution, for me, came very quickly, literally overnight, and along with it a complete restoration of my health. I can work like a horse all day, all week, and feel no pain. And I can usually paddle my canoe out in the wind all weekend if I feel like. Bailing out financially and picking up the pieces took a couple of years extra, and during that time Fran went in and did her grief work. It was pretty hectic for us as a couple then. I remember absolutely trashing her closet one day, I was so mad about ---- I can't even remember - silly huh, only to come home and find my own closet absoltely trashed as well. Well, better the closets than ourselves. But over time the boundaries re-adjusted into something healthier and a developing intimacy has been a fruit of that. Yum! It has been all onward and upward ever since in every area of our lives. Like I said earlier, we can serve out of love now, whereas, in the past, we were seving out of personal need.

You say you have grown so much in the last year and I believe you. Rooting out a blockage as big as the Fam's blockage is like removing a festering tumor. There's tremendous freedom and newness of life for those who make it though the eye of that needle. My congratulations to you. Hope your health returns and that you find gainful employment soon.