In Reply to: also posted by lydia on September 08, 2004 at 15:29:53:
I do believe that we are all in remorse over what was our fault in having borned children into a crazy cult. I just hope all SGs realize that when we talk about how we suffered or how duped we were or how innocent we were when we joined, it in no way minimizes the pain we feel for having children born into a love-cult steaming with pedophiles ready to pounce and that they suffered needlessly because of it. I think that's why we try so hard to explose them for what they are as a way of setting the record straight. Otherwise, it would be so much easier to disappear into the wind.
I do not believe I was in my right mind, but it does not mean I abdicate responsibility for what happened. I think this is the missing link and is preventing a lot of meaningful dialogue from happening.
It's kind of interesting that the oldest of my children are so much more understanding than the younger ones who really don't remember anything, or remember very little. It's so much more odd to them, but the older ones understand completely and hold nothing against me. I think they understand better how entrapped I was. For about 6 years or more after we left, every mother's day, the oldest would give me the most lovely mother's day card and in every one he would thank me from the bottom of his heart for taking him out of TF.
I'm so sorry, Lydia, that your daughters had to go through that.