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Finally wrote it and posted it.

Posted by MG on January 30, 2005 at 15:58:17

Movingon has a page where FGs can post. You go to the tab "Getting Out", then go down the Menu to "Generations".

The intro to the Generations page says: "Part of being born and raised in the Family was having thousands of "uncles" and "aunties". The generation that founded and perpetuated the Family had a profound effect on all of our lives. This section is for dialogue with the first generation. To FGAs: Please remember that this is our site and our turf. You are invited here to listen, not preach."

Yesterday I subnitted an article to the movingon site and it was posted there.

Here's my article:

I’m MG, formerly I was Timothy Helmet, I’m American, I joined in ’71. I made the decision to finally write the following because of Mr. John LaMattery’s clear call and resounding statement “in support of the second-generation’s fight to expose the abuses of the quasi-Christian church of The Family International. To all past and current first-generation members of The Family International; to ALL our second-generation young people; to the media and; most of all to my own dear children.”

First of all I ask all second generation members of The Family, whether former members or current ones, for your forgiveness. I blindly followed the teachings of David Berg and Karen Zerby, and I did not take a stand against the sexual, physical, and mental abuse that my own children and so many others suffered in the Family. I am responsible. Like John LaMattery says, “By placing my children into harm’s way I must take full responsibility for the results of this in their lives today.”

I have a lot to give an account for because one of my main jobs in the Family was teaching, which also meant being an OC/Jett shepherd. On far too many occasions I participated in the implementation of severe, harsh, and harmful disciplinary practices on many children and young people. Although I never lived in Macau, Japan or in any of the other major Victor program centers, the Victor program publications were released to the whole Family and I willingly carried out Victor program principles in our home in southern Brazil where I worked as a teacher. We put you on silence restrictions, and sometime I was called on to spank some of you. I spanked my own children. A spanking in the Family meant, according to Berg’s teachings, that it did not stop until you stopped crying. I remember using the back of hairbrush. I used other things too. I’d like to hope that I never used a coat hanger to give a spanking, but if I remember correctly, Berg had suggested this and thence I surely must have used one on some occasions. I remember the times I left bruises on some of you. I remember a lot of things for which I am ashamed and deeply sorry for. I treated you harshly just for doing what kids do and you deserved so much better. I have had the chance to personally apologize to my own children, but some others of you may remember me. My name was Timothy Helmet, I was a teacher in Brazil, Poland, Switzerland, and Belgium. For all of you, who were personally hurt by me, please forgive me. I also ask forgiveness from all second generation Family children because I did not take a stand against the wrongs perpetrated on you by the Family’s brand of child-rearing.

I was aware of homes where sexual practices involving children were encouraged and abetted by the leadership, but I simply turned a blind eye. I did the same when the Davidito book was published. I can assume nothing but full responsibility for my failures, and for the choice I made to be a blind, devoted believer in Berg and Zerby’s teachings.

Once we visited a Family home where a couple of non-members were staying. The shepherds of the home were “ministering” to this couple and had given them “The Devil Hate Sex” to read. When our backs were turned the non-member man and his girlfriend started to sexually molest my two young daughters. I returned from a shopping trip and walked in on them, and got my kids out of it. But it was too late, the abuse had already happened. Then and there I could have and should have reported the incident to the police. I did not. For this too I have asked my daughters to forgive me.

I can but echo John LaMattery who exposes so well the mindset that keeps Zerby and the rest of the Family from being truly forthcoming and honest. He writes, “It is the mindset that is causing Ricky’s own mother and leaders of The Family to place the blame for the tragic fruit of her own body on so-called apostates instead of squarely on her own shoulders and the shoulders of her idol namely David Berg, founder of The Children of God.”

I was moved to see the responses to John LaMattery’s article on Movingon.org. I add my meager words to his and fully support him when he says, "I call on all FIRST-GENERATION current and former members of The Family International to now follow me in supporting our children as they raise their voices to cry out against the lies and the falsehoods that they suffered under." Thank you John for the example you set for us FGs to assume personal responsibility without making excuses. You are sincere. And you very effectively and resoundingly expose and condemn Berg’s perverseness and Zerby’s continued arrogance.

I also stand with James Penn, Ed Priebe, and others who, like John, have taken a stand in support of the second generation and offered sincere apologies.

Here's the link:
http://www.movingon.org/category.asp?sID=1&Cat=21

My article is titled "another FG statement of apology and support"