In Reply to: The Miner's Canary posted by L'il Bow-wow Biggie B on April 20, 2005 at 18:58:02:
I think that people that are attracted to high demand groups or relationships often come from backgrounds where there was much abuse. I think the abuse factor often is a causative factor in people seeking out drugs or solutions via charismatic controlling people.
I don't want to over-generalize here and realize this is not always the case, but if you are FG survivor, as I believe you are, but could be wrong, you would not be unique in having a background of much PAIN. Both in the Family and before it.
That being said, what do you think hampers understanding the most between activists, exers, generations etc, and IF I read you right, why do you feel like you have a unique spot on the pain charts that makes you a canary vs. the toxic gas of others?
Personally, I think the toxic gas comes from us all at different times because by rote of surviving the Family, we have all been miners' canaries at some points or another on our road in the family and oftentimes before. Therefore we can all at times have a tendency to be more reactive than pro active.
What I wonder is if it is ever a reasonable expectation that personalities will be set aside so people can work towards healing from a myriad of perspectives and styles?
(Also want to clarify here that when I say "pro-active" I am not referring to people being active in helping other exers or in some cause, but oftentimes simply pro-active in cleaning out their wounds and when needed using a doctor.)