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I have lost all respect for you

Posted by Observer on April 23, 2005 at 01:06:32

Jim, I posted several posts today giving you sincere advice & I meant what I was saying. I thought you had actually learned something from all your confrontations on MovingOn & maybe had softened up a bit, so I asked you who you were making yourself accountable to & who you counseled with since your actions affect so many. I suggested that since you were able to speak so gently to someone like Clare Borowick, that you ought to change gears & speak more gently & with more empathy to ex-members as well I told you it would be wise to listen to the advice of other ex-members instead of brushing off their advice. Then ĎAnother Observerí (not me) posted the following:

Posted by Another Observer on April 22, 2005 at 22:19:28
In Reply to: Re: Advice posted by Observer on April 22, 2005 at 21:55:35:
They can see you are nice and fair. Watch your words sister/brother, it's a cunning plan to get you in their clan.

Obviously 'Another Observer' doesn't like you, but without reading close enough to see that it was not me, you turned on me in a moment & showed what you are capable of. You said:

Observer- I think I know why you don't have the "balls" to come forward and identify. I won't tell anyone who you are. I already know. But I'd like first person testimony to confirm. If you are who I think you are, then all of your postings make sense, if not, I would feel terrible about misidentifying you. If there's an audience to this conversation, what do you think? Let's take a vote. Does "Observer" come out where I can truly "see" him or not?

Then you posted:

Observer, you are identifying yourself quite well now, especially with the "clan" statement that you prepetuated and caused so many of your own to go sideways. I thought that you had a date tonight with a nice girl? Take her out, have a nice dinner, and do it without a committee!

This was my reply:

Jim has assumed that he knows who I am & is threatening to 'out' me by naming what he thinks is my legal name. Jim, whatever remaining benefit of the doubt I had been giving you is very rapidly evaporating. You are unworthy of my trust. Shit man! You even try to 'out' & threaten those who act friendly toward you! What kind of person are you? You think you know who I am? I guarantee you that you don't have a clue. I have never made a derogatory comment about the LaMatteries in general & never called your extended family a 'clan'. Congratulations. You just lost a potential ally. Not that you figure you need any, anyway.

Jim, today I lost all respect for you. I think anyone who gets close to you is in danger of being threatened & pressured. I believe now that you actually did threaten the SGs who claim that you threatened them.

I gave you friendly advice all day but obviously you feel you don't need advice. You even admitted that you don't counsel with anyone to make sure you're doing the 'right thing.' That is one scary statement.