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In Reply to: Re: Doesn't surprise me posted by Everwary on October 08, 2005 at 18:03:56:
To start with, I could never stand the way he asked baited questions and set himself up to be the guy with all the answers, the smart guy who sees the answers are so simple while people who've battled a problem for decades are too stupid to know any better.
Yup, he knows better than you! He's good with words, quick with come backs, and the whole set up is rigged for punch lines, cliches and cued applause from the audience. In 2 seconds flat he's going to give you an answer to complex lifelong problems, and if you don't happen to be very verbal yourself, or you're locked up in despair from all the thoughts his questions have triggered and need time to think and articulate yourself, well too bad, it's a TV show. No quick reply, and the moment's gone! Dr. Fill steals the moment from you, and fills it with yet another know-it-all cliche. Yippee! It's his turf and he knows the field, and you go on national television to look like a blithering idiot who couldn't see how simple it all was.
Reminds me of other amazingly simple answers like just forsake all and trust God, or don't think about it, just do it.
Wanting to be fair, figuring it was all a TV show with limited time and ratings to consider, I went and bought a book of his.
Line after line, he went on and on about "you know how you're feeling stuck and afraid to take risks and afraid to make changes in your life. You know how this is exactly you. You're stuck in a life that doesn't satisfy you and you know it. You know this is you. You can identify with this!"
And I really just couldn't. He assumed too much. Although he generalizes too much, I couldn't agree more with one part of Stephen Salerno's take on "SHAM" - the Self-Help and Actualization Movement:
"SHAM is based on two different philosophies - victimisation and empowerment [...] Victimisation preaches that everybody's life is fucked up - and if you don't know it, you're really fucked up."
Just ask Dr. Fill. But you know, you're not doing well, and you're too afraid of taking risks, so you probably won't.
Having said all that, I give top marks for the expose and amount of issues covered in a 1-hour show regarding TF and recovery from it.
