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my turn to answer

Posted by Swede on October 29, 2005 at 19:45:32

In Reply to: Re: yes, some have admitted to it posted by James Seemore on October 29, 2005 at 16:59:21:

No, I never put any in isolation. Yes I spanked children, but they were my own, and I brought them out and I learned how things work in the real world, and I apologized to them, and they are only eternally grateful they did not spend the rest of their lives inside. If you talk about personal accountability I am accountable to those I harmed, and those were my own. However I also believe in collective accountability. I believe that by being a member I tithed, and supported an institution which caused harm in the lives of many. I was a cog (yes intended pun) in the machinery that enabled crimes to be committed. I did use decit to obtain donations. As a rule I never told anyone I was a COGer. I also saw a lot of abuse happening around me, but the best thing I could do was to get out with my children safely, because I could not arouse any suspicions or they would take them away from me. Yes, I saw how the Family encouraged "righteous" parents serving God to move with their children to other countries away without the "backslider" parent's consent. Yes I saw dance videos, but I was already trying to leave.

How do I go after specific wrongdoers? I can't. I can't report on a father hitting his child too hard 20 years ago in Hong Kong, and on the mother who fled from her husband in America and took their children to Australia on the cousel of leaders 20 years ago. It was a collective effort of instituionalized wrongdoing. Each and every member cannot be accountable for the small parts, but the leadership and the structure is accountable for the bigger picture. The environment of fear they created. The failed thinking they taught. The pedophilia.
It is also retoric to play the game that the Family cannot be held accountable as a whole.