In Reply to: what do you mean by: posted by Acheick on November 09, 2005 at 15:22:10:
Sorry, poor choice of words on my part.
What I meant was - for me the hardest part of sharing was the emotional discomfort (trauma sounds too dramatic for what I felt), both as my wife shared with other men, and also myself as I tried to reconcile emotions. Sex is afterall, a very powerful emotional experience, even for most men.
What I was trying to say was, the emotional aspects, both with coping with feelings of jealousy and hurt with my wife sharing, and with trying to feel out an emotional connection with someone I was sharing with were somewhat eased if it was a mutual sharing time (my wife with someone, me with someone).
I was physically ill the first time my wife shared and I was left to sleep out on the couch. I look back on the whole time and wonder how I ever could have done such things.