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A response to the 1993 question from below

Posted by Miguel on August 11, 2007 at 02:07:00

“A little off the subject but if any of you care to, can you write how you felt when things DIDN'T happen in 1993? Did many people leave then? “


This is a powerful question. Although I left long before this point, there were several other similar situations though not as clearly fraudulent as this one. But these vents are all part of a pattern that reinforces control. Those who “can see” leave and those who stayed have yielded their will one more notch.

It happened when the small band of gypsies (ha!) was on the road and Berg or one of his minions would give the poor hippies some crappy hard time. Some early letters describe this pattern of psychological abuse very well. Yet, because of those purging sessions, the Bergs could truthfully say that nothing was held back. Then they distorted the reality and said that the strong stayed and those who left were the weak ones. The weak ones were the ones who were so oppressed that they could not imagine a life without all the support they received from the group and so were willing to take anything. That is being weak. It is the same syndrome that makes a person to stay in a bad marriage with an abusive spouse.

When the Kohoutek fiasco came and went, many people left. The same happened with the RNR and at several other minor “independence” initiatives. How many people were sent out to be “free”, away from a home to just survive on their own with very limited fellowship just because they had a problem of some type? Almost everybody I knew had been in a similar situation at some point. In many cases, it was done under the guise of “pioneering” when in reality they were pushing problem cases out. And it was a win-win situation for the Bergs, if they stopped reporting they would win. If they instead started something or even if nothing happened, they would get a little money in so-called tithing.

The 1993 fiasco is exactly the same thing, but even worse. Those who stayed were already so zombied down that, as all the other times in the past, they didn’t see anything wrong with the lies and cover ups. They also can’t see all the contradictions, disparities and abuse. Even if they were my own flesh and blood I’d say, it is time to let them go and give them up to the Lord’s care. It is already a miracle that they are even alive in the flesh though so dead in the spirit.