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Sometimes it works like this

Posted by Angry Parent on August 24, 2007 at 12:07:53

In Reply to: Re: Does The Family really care about the handicapped? posted by GP on August 22, 2007 at 22:56:45:

Just because this letter or letters like these were in existence did not always mean we all had time to read them as they came out, or actually let their contents sink in so we knew what they meant.
By the time I joined full time, this and a whole lot of other "heavy" letters were already around, some of them collected in Mo letter volumes. Once you have made the decision to join and stay with a controversial group because you have given them your basic trust and consider them good people, you compartmentalize whatever you "don't understand" as something you'll just have to deal with later.
We all operate on a system of priorities such as must do, should do and nice to do. When you and the cult have done everything to make sure you can't just turn around and resign, and you're beset with so many daily tasks, chores, urgent priorities and immersed in must-do's, you are too busy to reconsider your membership in the cult pending the thousands of Mo letters you ought to check out and study for your approval.
That task gets on a backburner, daily reassigned to should-do's and nice-todo's, while your live in a mind-numbing environment, away from reality, which chips away at your sense of judgement anyway. Before you know it, you've been in the cult for years, and the full meaning of what Berg wrote and what the Family actually believes and practices hasn't dawned on you.
Often it takes seeing something really bad in front of you before you finally wake up, and if you have the misfortune of not seeing bad things or things bad enough to shock you, you stay on with your good people. The seeing-nothing-but-good-people-around-you element is crucial to anyone joining and staying in a cult.
By the time my child was born, I had this letter thrown at me retroactively, like I should have known all along that this means I have something seriously wrong with me spiritually.