I picked up the following review of a book that may be of help to some of those who grew up in TF.I haven't read it, but the review sounded interesting.
The author is quite controversial radio show host. Raised in Catholic/Jewish family--she converted to Judaism. She has a tough love approach to kids/teen.
"How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood"
by Laura Schlessinger
Hardcover: 272 pages
Publisher: HarperCollins; First edition (January 3, 2006)
With her characteristically pointed advice and take-no-prisoners attitude, Dr. Laura's book Bad Childhood - Good Life tackles one of the most basic questions of therapy: How can a person effectively move past the injuries of a bad childhood? Her answer will be familiar to her fans-look at your current behavior and modify what you can change rather than simply venting your anger or allowing yourself to ever be victimized again.
Forget about simply accepting or forgiving your parents for their errors-Dr. Laura extols the virtues of conquering. Through excerpts from her radio show and letters from her listeners, she illustrates her points about guilt, anger and fear in personalized accounts from individuals. Short lists and question/answer sections make for an easy read that allows you to smoothly fast forward and backtrack to the topics you find most relevant at the moment-and numerous references to other chapters and her website provide all the additional information you could want. Faith is a subtle but definite component; some readers will find it the most helpful part of the book while it decidedly won't appeal to others.
Not everyone will agree with-or appreciate--her succinct manner that drives right to the root of issues. Like her show, the book presents absolutes rather than possible alternatives. For readers looking for a definitive method for moving past childhood issues, Dr. Laura might offer the solution. Jill Lightner