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Passing through here/ To 2G(?) posting

Posted by Jo on January 28, 2009 at 01:54:32

I haven't posted here in quite a long time and last time I did was pretty sporadic at best. I noticed that someone posted with some similar feelings to something I have posted in the past. Maybe it will and maybe it won't, but I hope it will suffice it to say that I've never minimized or doubted anything anyone has said when they have told their story, and I don't think I have minimized anyone's story or their pain.
If I have, please point it out to me because it would not have been intentional and it would have been wrong of me.
I am glad I had the wherewithal to leave TF with all my children as a single mother with no safe place to land in a country I had not been in for over a decade, not even for a visit. I had no driver's license, no work history, only a high school education, no bank account, car, possessions other than a few suitcases with clothes. I had just turned thirty. It was a huge struggle but we made it. I'm not ashamed that my kids did not have to go through what you may have gone through. But we did have struggles. Lots of them. I was never June Cleaver after having left the family, nor was I that type of mother before I left. But I was no monster either. I don't personally deserve your anger or your hatred though if I write something which angers you, that is certainly your right to feel whatever you feel.
I AM sad that you had to go through whatever things make you feel so understandably angry and hurt. Sometimes I think that the ex-member venues are places where people can be harsher on each other, and I want to ask anyone reading this: can people ever grow past their 'falling out spot' because of something they said or thought? How does anyone from any generation "move on" if hatreds and anger, prejudices, labels, are held onto like a pit bull on a dog in the Mike Vick ring?
I am not talking about between individuals and specific incidents of abuse people have endured or specific perps.
I am sorry for anything I have said that made you feel discounted or angry towards me personally, if I have done that.
I'm not even sure if you are a 2G person because I've known of a FG who posted as if they were 2G. So it gets real confusing. That's one reason that posting is something I seldom do any more.
At some point in my own journey, I had to look at what was broken in me and get it straightened out as much as possible.
Sometimes things NEVER get straightened out. Sometimes the justice dept. does not do their job or abusers get away with things and go on their merry way or they die and their victim never gets to see justice or hear a genuine apology and acknowledgment. It's not right but it happens like this all the time.
I hope you will find some peace of mind in spite of what you have experienced and that at some point in life you will be able to look back at what you have endured and it will no longer consume you.
Until then, I want to say to you that I apologize for anything I may have said in the past that felt offensive to you. Including right now, if anything I am saying does. It is not my intent.