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Re: Rocky's post

Posted by Donny on November 22, 2002 at 16:17:43

In Reply to: Re: Rocky's post posted by goth88 on November 22, 2002 at 14:04:40:

Goth, I hope you and Achieck have sorted this out. I read your post a couple hours ago and it's still bothering me. All the FGA/SGA issue was discussed in great detail some time ago and it was agreed by all that we are all victims, and I agree with your point that we didn't make an informed choice when we joined. I also understand your conviction not to budge one iota on your stance. You've put up with enough crap in the group and damned if you're gonna accept more blame now. Good on you for that.

However, I guess it was the agressive tone of your post, "Ya know Achieck" and "you can argue till you're blue in the face" that bugs me. You also assumed that if Achieck didn't agree with you that that meant she was beating herself down and stepping on her own neck. I understand you wrote that in a heated moment, but I don't get that impression of Achieck at all. I don't think if someone is particulary understanding of SGA abuses (which Achieck must be! She has lots of kids!) that that means she take only their side and has no compassion on other FGAs. I don't think if you care for SGAs like Rocky that that means you need to be beating yourself up. It's not an "either or" situation". My understanding was that she was simply pointing out a difference, that the SGAs were born in the group and had no choice whatsoever, and that for the most part, it was FGAs who did abuse SGAs. Not all FGAs, obviously.

I admire you taking a strong stand for your convictions but I don't know why you feel a need to argue the way you do sometimes.