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Re: Let's look at other solutions

Posted by MG on December 05, 2002 at 16:25:47

In Reply to: Re: Let's look at other solutions posted by ethicist on December 05, 2002 at 15:10:38:

I agree with the fact that Solomon shouldn’t get away with lying about being a Family member. And I agree with a huge percentage of what you're saying.

Allow me to address some of what you’ve written about current Family members and their accountability, because there's some things I don't agree with. You’ve written: ”Fam members have been required to make several pledges of unquestioning loyalty to M&P. .....So all Fam members have made conscious, on-the-record decisions to accept M&P as their fearless leaders ...More importantly, by accepting to be in the Fam, they are agreeing not to voice any dissent. Every Fam member has chosen to be unquestioningly aligned with Berg, M&P and their outrageous abusive doctrines and practices. So they need to be willing to take the heat for that association." Etc.

Very very black and white assessments. What happened to all the articles in the GenEx archives and all the pages of posts on the subject of mind control? That doesn’t apply anymore? I don’t get it.

I signed the S2K “contract” in ‘99, because I simply had no other place to go. I saw myself as someone with no marketable job skills, and I was virtually bereft of any self-esteem. Many Family members remain so out of a sense for survival. They don’t know where they could go or what they could do, how to succeed especially having left the “High Calling of God”. It's not out of a blind loyalty to P & M. They are so far removed from the every day life of many a Family member.

And those pledges of unquestioning loyalty have been the backbone of Family discipleship control tactics since the very beginning. Look at all the multitude of letters over the years that called everyone to arms, to renew their committment, to die daily for the Gideon’s band. It's exactly the same as it always was when it comes to those pledges. For me the big difference was in the early years I really meant it, later on when I made them it was just going through the motions.

My questions about what to do with the Cherub Wings debate has nothing to do with denial or being afraid of hurting the Family as Acheick said in anwer to one of my posts. I say lets do whatever works best to help people that are in the Family to want to leave. She cited James Penn’s articles, so I say how can we do more of that? They really did help a lot of people to wake up and start to think.

It’s one thing to expose the Family's madness, and to expose Solomon’s membership when he denies he’s a member.

But attacks on the Family so often just reinforces the groupthink persecution syndrome, and the leadership uses it to strengthen their control.

Brainwashing in the Family has not stopped. Look at how ridiculous the Vandari thing is. To me, I think that by just being a normal human being with whomever we know and have contact with in the Family, is the best way to show up M & P for the weird, mad, perverted, twisted cult leaders that they are, and more will leave.