In Reply to: This subject is long overdue posted by A husband on March 04, 2003 at 09:40:15:
to hear it from the husband's point of view. Good on you for speaking up. I need to hear this. It's very difficult for me not to be sarcastic with this topic, but I will do my best not to be so please bear with me. As a single mother in TF (which, as I mentioned in the thread below, is imo the worst fate anyone can have in TF), I have grown very cynical of men in general. I was treated like prime meat passed on from dick to dick, and I NEVER met any brother who wasn't eager to get it on with me. It became a mechanical function as far as I was concerned. A job. That's why I aver that I am still reeling from the effects of it to this day. So to hear it from the other side is like a bolt from the blue for me. I never really got a chance to see and appreciate the sensitive side of men in TF unless they had some ulterior motive. My wounds go very deep, but I'm slowly recovering. Thoughts like yours would help me see the bigger picture.
Please tell me how it felt for you when you had to have sex with a 'needy' sister. What would go thru your head when you made love with your wife? Could you even get it up for her when you knew she'd just been with another man? How did you explain it to your children everytime they'd see mommy get dressed for the night? Please I really want to know.