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Matt - remember

Posted by Acheick on April 27, 2003 at 10:45:12

In Reply to: finances posted by mattkeeper on April 27, 2003 at 10:01:46:

The devil is the accuser of the saints. One thing I had to really get over was the guilt thing. In the family, through Berg's letters and his leadership, we were made to feel guilty, but that is not God's way and it is not healthy. I am also in debt, probably more than you. Having 8 children and no careers in mid-life didn't help a bit. We've struggled and struggled and just when we think we see the light at the end of the tunnel, we're back in debt again. I've had to go back to work and live separately from part of my family and it really hurts. But Matt, it's nothing that we've done wrong accept maybe not managed finances well or not had a good enough job to pay for all our expenses, it's not your fault. This is just life and there are many, many people in our situation. The thing is, be proud of what you are and who you are. You work to support your family, you are an honest person, you are a caring person, being in debt does not make you a bad person. It's just something that happens that is not always within our control. You get car repair bills, you get doctor bills, you get clothing bills, children's activities, etc., etc. and it adds up and then the interest rates kill you. Have you thought of going to consumer credit counseling? We did that once. It's a free service and they will help you get out of debt. Try it. But most importantly, don't look at yourself as being the problem in everything that goes wrong, that's the devil's trap. See it for what it is and it will free you from that condemnation trap that wants to enslave you and keep you down. Trust me, it's a real liberation. I will most certainly pray for you also.