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Re: you cannot be judge and jury

Posted by Acheick on December 08, 2005 at 00:43:14

In Reply to: Re: you cannot be judge and jury posted by Jim LaMattery on December 08, 2005 at 00:32:03:

well, if you must know - I have spoken with more than one person, SGA included, who was totally offended by you. So, yeah, I have quite a bit more knowledge about what is going on than you realize. It is not all as benign as you would like to have people believe. I think you believe this yourself and you have no idea how you come across to people, in essence, you believe your own hype. If you must know, I even spoke to the FBI agent you are dealing with as to my concerns about you. She promised me she would talk with you and I believe that she did. My understanding is that you acted rather obstinant about your undesirable attitude. I was told that you were informed that you needed to stop alienating the exer community.

Jim - you are still not listening. It's not that you are asking for help, this is all well and good and no doubt why so many wanted to help you in the beginning. It's the way you have treated everyone, moi included, in your attempts to satisfy your own personal agenda. Bottom line is, you scare people off. Really, you need to take some time and sit back and look at yourself. You come across as a former leader and you come across as a bully. This may work great in the corporate world and with underlings in an office environment, but you can't do that here with this type of atmosphere of hurting souls. Abused people very rarely come out of the woordwork for this very reason. It is of the utmost importance that you handle them very carefully and as you can see, you have lost more than one willing person wanting to be a help - in fact, a very hefty amount have distanced themselves from you. Are you listening yet?