In Reply to: Re: 1st Hnd Knowledge A posted by Bookworm on September 28, 2007 at 18:26:11:
Some of the SGAs that I know are terrified by the thought of ever facing their abusers again. I can't imagine one of them telling their abuser, "contact me please, let's chat over email."
I am concerned what could happen if one of the more unstable and disturbed SGAs got in contact with your parents. I doubt very seriously you would talk about "killing" to have one of them give you the opportunity to discuss the past if you realized the intrusive thoughts of violence that take possession of some childhood abuse victims. I'm wondering whether your parents understand that.
I'm also wondering if your parents realize how emotionally triggered childhood abuse victims can get by certain kinds of communication, like, for example, apologies that are couched in vague, general terms.
Rick Rodriguez is not the only SGA with a weapons arsenal, a substance abuse problem, and obsessive revenge fantasies. What you call a "lovely can of worms," others would call a powder keg. I'm not trying to scare your parents off from communicating with exers, only urging them to become better informed about the Family survivor/victim culture that exists outside your immediate family. If you recall, your father's conversation with us began with something along the lines of "I never knew this website existed."