In Reply to: Re: I'll have a stab at this posted by MG on December 03, 2007 at 02:37:42:
You're right about the underlying anxiety/fear in the parents' voices, and the underlying need to measure up. It was a show everyone was putting on, and they were so into it.
The best way to get someone to commit to something is to make them think it's their own idea. By espousing ideals, we were brainwashed and (willingly) manipulated into deep role play, so deep that there was no way out. We never got to evolve as human beings and find out what/who we were and be true to it (in other words have genuine self-worth). We were told what we were supposed to be and immerse our soul into being it. And this playing a role till you became the role was really just internalizing the act, the falseness, the dishonesty, the make-believe, the lie. We were tricked into living in perpetual detachment from reality, while we were told that out there was the illusion.
Well, in hindsight aren't you glad you weren't yeilded enough?